Everybody has seen this door mat that symbolizes the many struggles that families experience just trying to get along. Written on the door mat is Friends are Welcome Family by Appointment Only.
I was reminded of this human tragedy while reading a piece by a sociologist who described healthy distances which must be maintained between family members. The well known pessimistic German philosopher named Schopenhauer likened the human condition to a porcupine seeking warmth, but the closer we get, we prick each other.
The companion phrases “Absence makes the heart fonder” and “Familiarity breed contempt” are proof that a difficult balance much be maintained in order for people to get along. We love our family members and siblings, but being around each other all the time invariably creates friction and tension!
This is why when a woman or man is murdered, it is frequently the spouse that is the primary suspect(sorry, person of interest). In fact, it is just considered procedure for law enforcement to automatically question the spouse of the decedent irrespective of the existence of a motive or any other reason.
I know a young man who used to live in Albuquerque,NM who loved his father, but was vehemently opposed to his retired dad moving there!