The italicized passage at the end of this piece is taken verbatim from Lady Chatterley’s lover. The interlocutor, who uttered the profound thought, was The Lady’s oracle Tommy Dukes who is a friend of her war ravaged paraplegic husband Clifford. Constance, Connie, Lady Chatterley is a very bored, going through the motions of life, kept woman who was actually encouraged by her wealthy author husband to copulate with one or more of his selected friends. The well off land owner felt their home was void of uniting family values that might be filled by raising progeny even NOT of his loins.
Back to the chosen passage from David Herbert Lawrence’s most well known tome. Mr Dukes seems to believe intellectual exchanges between man and a woman can NOT coexist with love and passion.
One wonders if these are the beliefs of the author or whether he is just portraying a particular character’s predispositions concerning love and romance. I do understand what he means, but know couples where both friendship and intense sexual passion are present.
“`A woman wants you to like her and talk to her, and at the same time love her and desire her; and it seems to me the two things are mutually exclusive.”