A close friend sent me an early Xmas gift in the form of a book titled the emotional rape syndrome by Michael Fox(curious what he knows about emotional rape being married to the doting Tracy Pollan). He had been through a devastating relationship with a woman he had fallen for hook, line, and sinker and has been through two marriages since then. He says he lost too much of his heart to his first love and should have never married the other two women due to intimacy issues created by the trauma of being jilted by his first love.
I skimmed through what, to me, seems like a part self help work doing my best to not miss any crucial points, not dismissing the fact that many among us have felt unbearable pain exacted upon us by the very people we loved the most.
The author would have done well to pick another title for a book that otherwise is loaded with life changing advice and specific ways to avoid people who prey on your emotional state while feigning deep love for you. This is what Fox erroneously compares to rape. Let’s be clear. Physical rape cannot generally be avoided. However, emotional rape, as Fox defines it, can be avoided by getting the hell out of Dodge once you see the telltale signs of abuse.
There are obviously true victims with respect to physical rape. “Emotional rape victim” is a misnomer. Think about it! You are victimizing yourself by staying with such a person. With physical rape, person is legally a victim due to the element of coercion present. No coercion is involved in “emotional rape” making it victimless albeit a despicable and cruel thing to do to another human being! REMEMBER, walk out of relationship and cut your losses before you are in too deep and are filled with the type of anger and bitterness that will harden your heart and make it more difficult to find and sustain future loving relationships.
I want to close with an apology for all you folks who gave your heart to somebody and then had it wadded up and thrown into nearest trash can. I know what I said may have come off as callous and indifferent, but you are misusing the term rape in order to create yet another class of victims in a country that is chockablock full of em. I fully believe in the value of the book’s content but would have preferred the title Avoiding Love Predators like the love psycho East of Eden character Cathy Ames.
May you find peace and God Bless your souls.